I am a (28F) and I’ve been vegan for 7 years. My partner (31M) is not vegan and really didn’t understand the truth of the animal agriculture industry until we started dating. He eats vegan with me but doesn’t when we’re not together which is most of the time. It’s almost been 2 years and I’m reaching a point of frustration.
I am slowly becoming judgmental of his lifestyle choices because he’s already pretty unhealthy and is now gaining weight and I am having all these awful thoughts about how gross it is that he’s literally killing himself and putting dead animals in his body AND doesn’t exercise. I love him so much but I don’t know if I can compromise my values long term.
Has anyone had experience with this? I don’t want to end my relationship but I do firmly stand by wanting to be with a partner who is vegan and has some baseline level of self-care. Since these behaviors are learned I don’t want to give up on him but I am getting really tired of trying to make sure he takes his health seriously when I could already be eating vegan brunch and crushing workouts with someone.